Take Care of Yourself
Take care of yourself? Right! People in difficult relationships often neglect themselves, because they are so caught up in taking care of and reacting to their difficult loved ones. Many also erroneously believe that self-care is somehow selfish, sinful, or unspiritual. Believing they are responsible for others, they ignore their own wants and needs and give too much. Some believe they are not worth it.
Is it selfish, sinful, or unspiritual to nurture yourself? Yes, if you are completely unbalanced and care only for yourself in a narcissistic self-
centered way, but that isn’t the problem people in difficult relationships typically have. Instead, they give too much. The goal is to find a balance that enables you to take care of yourself and care about others (Philippians 2:4).
It is necessary and essential to care for your body and yourself (Ephesians 5:29). How can you have anything to give others, if you don’t first nourish and nurture yourself? Jesus said, “I have come that they might have life and have it more abundantly” (John 10:10, NIV). You can’t live an abundant life when you are guilt-ridden, work-driven, other-focused, and deprivation-based. You can only live an abundant life when YOU take care of YOURSELF! Learn how to do it in a way that takes your own and others’ needs into consideration.
For a complete explanation of taking care of yourself in Principle 2, please refer to Karla's books: 10 Lifechanging Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages and When Love Hurts: 10 Principles to Transform Difficult Relationships...
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