Christian Dating Tips and Truths
Christian dating tips and truths help you to use spiritual discernment in your relationships.
Dating is both exciting and scary. Exciting because of the potential of meeting the love of your life and scary because of the potential of being rejected when feelings are not mutual. With the Internet, you have an opportunity to meet people that you would never have crossed paths with, but in order to do so you have to put up your profile and invite people you have never met to evaluate you based on a picture and a description. The Internet also allows you an opportunity to pursue long distance relationships in a way not possible when telephone conversations and letters through the post office were the only way to stay in touch. Dating is also scary because you do not know if the person you are dating is really healthy emotionally, spiritually, and relationally.
Christians have additional issues to deal with in dating. They often believe that God has one person in mind for them and pursue “the one” through prayer and asking God’s guidance through circumstances. They are aware that God wants them to be equally yoked which leads them to limit themselves to dating only like-minded Christians or to somehow justify dating those that aren’t. They also struggle with God’s prohibition of sex outside of marriage because it is so common today to have sex that they are often expected to do so regardless of their faith. Those that stand by this are often dumped by would-be suitors making it more difficult to sustain a long-term relationship; those that have sex often feel conflicted.
Divorced Christians also struggle with teachings about whether or not they are divorced in God’s eyes. The issue of whether remarriage is sinful or allowable depends on the reason they divorced and who’s teaching they follow. Needless to say, the baggage from the divorce, the concerns over children, step-parenting, and the uncertainty surrounding the issues of remarriage all make dating even more complicated.
All of these issues and more make dating a multi-faceted endeavor for everyone. It becomes a truly rewarding exerience when you meet someone you want to be with who also wants to be with you and feel God’s blessing on your relationship.